Hooray, You're GAY! — National Coming Out Day and a Celebration of Your Queerness

So, we kind of GOT LEGALLY MARRIED last week–something I’m going to post about, and in detail, very, very soon, I promise. 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤ We are still coming down from the joyousness that is GETTING LEGALLY MARRIED, and a very, VERY happy (albeit too short!) honeymoon.


I’m an openly gay woman–which means that every single day is Coming Out Day for me. I come out to waitresses and librarians, new co-workers and random book store employees. Everyone in the world is assumed straight until proven otherwise, and though I’ve had primarily positive responses to my gayness, I’ve had some really crappy ones, too. I believe it’s important to be fully out for myself, every single day.

But a lot of people don’t have that luxury. (And, trust me, it IS a luxury.) Queer people live closeted every single day because to come out is to threaten their lives.

It takes a tremendous amount of courage to come out. Maybe you’re a teen, and you just realized recently that you’re a lesbian. Maybe you’re an older man who has known all his life, and has kept it a secret. Maybe you’re a trans-woman, terrified that if your best friend knows, she’ll desert you.

National Coming Out Day is a joyous celebration of support and love toward you. But it’s not easy to come out. I know that, I understand that and empathize with that, and I want you to know that while it may not be easy–you are not alone. You are never alone. There are people all across this great, big, beautiful world who will love and support you, and even if you can only come out to one person today, that still took a tremendous amount of courage. And I want to celebrate that with you.

Did you come out to someone today? I think that deserves a HUGE congratulations, chocolate and possibly a pony. You did ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS IN THE WORLD for the GLBTQ community to accomplish–you told someone the inherent truth of yourself, and that takes mad bravery, and an intense amount of courage. You are AWESOME, and I want you to know that.

I have LOTS of congratulations, but am kind of failing on the chocolate and pony parts, but I still want to tell you how freakin’ proud I am of you, and how inherently AWESOME you are. So while I may not have chocolate and a pony, I DO happen to be an author, and I have LESBIAN BOOKS that are positive stories about being gay! And if you came out today, I want you to have one. While we’re, you know, waiting for the pony.


1. Come out to someone! Anyone! If you’re already an out person, that still counts–you come out everyday. If it is unsafe for you to come out, you STILL qualify, because you deal with a life that, every single day, takes a tremendous amount of courage. ❤
2. Go to my page on Smashwords.
3. Check out with the book you want to read!
3A. If you want to read Sugar Moon, use coupon code XY59Z upon checkout.
3B. If you want to read Far, use coupon code QC86H upon checkout.
3C. If you want to read The Dark Wife, use coupon code NC66F upon checkout.

Some fine print: Smashwords has every eFormat available to you–but this won’t work on Amazon.com or BarnesandNoble.com, because Smashwords is AWESOME and is the only place that allows me to create 100% off coupons. But you can still download Kindle and Nook formats at Smashwords, so never fear! The coupon codes expire on October 13th, so check out now, if’n ye’d like your free book! ❤

Sharing is love. Coming out is awesome. Celebrate yourself–you are courageous and fucking fabulous, and you rock socks.


Edited to add: And that’s a wrap! 🙂 Thanks so much to everyone who took part! I HOPE you ENJOYED. ❤


About Sarah Diemer

I write about heroic, magical girls who love girls. I drink a lot of coffee. Follow me at http://twitter.com/sediemer or find out more about my work at http://sarahdiemerauthor.wordpress.com
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15 Responses to Hooray, You're GAY! — National Coming Out Day and a Celebration of Your Queerness

  1. Laura says:

    You are amazing ❤


  2. Shel says:

    You’re one courageous, inspiring lady. Keep on shining. ❤


  3. Nicayal says:

    Sarah, this is awesome of you. Thanks very much!

    I’ve already purchased “The Dark Wife” and enjoyed it quite a bit. Thanks to your generosity today, I’m giving “Far” a go next.

    Can’t wait for “Ragged” to come out either. That’s top on my list of books to purchase and read this month. Can’t even tell you!


    • Sarah says:

      Oh, you’re absolutely welcome! 🙂 And I’m so glad you enjoyed The Dark Wife–I hope you love “Far.”

      Awwww! That absolutely made my day. 🙂 Thank you so much!


  4. Joanna says:

    I came out as bisexual to an old family friend, the father of one of my childhood best friends. He’s mildly homophobic and he wasn’t exactly thrilled, but he said he would accept me no matter what.

    I decided to buy Sugar Moon. 🙂


  5. Lou Gagliardi says:

    Came out as transgender (MtF) today to the family. Brother didn’t know what to say, stepdad just went about his business..mom claimed I was lying and now won’t talk to me.

    But oh well, don’t need that negativity.

    Thank you for the book, I bought Sugar Moon


    • Sarah says:

      Thank you so much for sharing, Lou. 🙂 It took a TREMENDOUS amount of courage to do what you did.

      When I first came out to my parents, they…weren’t good about it, to put it mildly. And, just a week or so ago, my mother wept at my lesbian wedding and said it was the most beautiful thing she’d ever seen. So, for what it’s worth, sometimes they do a complete turn around.

      The absolute best of luck to you. And I hope you enjoy Sugar Moon.


    • Nicayal says:


      Wow. So inspiring and impressive. I identify as trans* (FtM) but I haven’t found the courage to bring it up to family members yet. And I sort of jumped the gun and came out to my girlfriend about 6 months ago.

      Congrats. You’re so brave. :]


  6. Rose says:

    Thank you so much =]


  7. Katie says:

    Thank you so much!!!


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